How Cross-Dressing Makes You a Better Prepper

feather-boot2No, I’m not going to be wearing a skirt and high-heels to the next big event, nor will I be drinking tea with pinky in the air.

Cross-dressing for survival is a far more practical concept, that will increase your chance of survival no matter the catastrophe.

Throughout history men and women have played certain roles and assigned obligations according to gender. Ideas of proper behavior according to gender vary among cultures and era, but generally men are seen as protectors and builders, while women generally fall into the role of mother and caregiver.

Research has suggested, that the practice of dividing labor and responsibilities according to sex dates back as far as two million years.

But are divided roles according to gender, in our best interest as survivalist’s and self-reliant people?

I don’t think so.

I’m not saying we should reverse roles, only that we need to consider learning and practicing skills traditionally associated with the opposite sex. Fleshing out our abilities, can only improve our chances of survival – I see no reason to limit our skills based on gender preconceptions.

No matter how much we deplore the thought, bad things happen – sometimes to you or your spouse. For instance, you or your partner could become ill, wounded or even killed due to unforeseen events, leaving the remaining partner without the skills you possessed.

For example; you maybe a certified three gun combat shooter and master sniper, while your other half doesn’t know which end the bullet exits the gun. Or you maybe able to turn the most basic of storage foods into a meal, while your partner struggles to make toast or boil water.

You’re a team, each possessing skills complementing the other, but what if half of that team and those skills were no longer available?

A well-rounded skill set is necessary for self-reliance and survival in general. Don’t be afraid to learn skills, traditionally thought of as appropriate only for the opposite sex.

Spending time in this area can only increase your chances.

As a man you can learn, cooking and food preservation, sewing and mending, nursing, child-care etc. Women can break from traditional roles, by learning building and carpentry skills, weapons handling and care, hunting, trapping, defensive skills etc.

Consider the skills your partner would need if you were no longer around and get to work obtaining those skills.

Isn’t it time you started cross-dressing your survival skills?

About M.D. Creekmore

M.D. Creekmore is the owner and editor of He is the author of four prepper related books and is regarded as one of the nations top survival and emergency preparedness experts. Read more about him here.


  1. Hawthorne Prepping Inc says:

    HA! Fully expected a post about kilts and a return to me proud Scottish roots! All jokes aside a very good post shows me just how much more I still need to learn especially since I don’t even have a significant other…

    • Hawthorne,
      As a mother of 3 sons, I made sure that they all learned how to cook, clean and do laundry. They could most likely do some basic sewing if they had too. The main reason I did that though was because I had heard some men comment that they had to get married so that they could eat.
      I have also met women who had no idea of their finances because their husband is the one who took care of everything. Well DH died and they had no clue of what to do. I could name many more examples but I am sure that you get the point. It is important to not limit yourself.

      • Hawthorne Prepping Inc says:

        Yes I do make a point to allways try to broaden my skillset and actually consider myself a fair cook though having my stepmom leave means I’m the only one who can cook anything more complex than hungry mans 🙂

  2. It’s always a good idea to work to your strengths and let your partner work to his/her strengths. Different cultures have different ideas about what is manly. It is not that any one thing is manly or unmanly, it is our perception of it as such. Some men like to cook and do it well. Some women like to hunt and gather.

    I know some men who like to crochet… Um, yeah. Now I want to start singing “I’m a lumberjack and I’m OK….”

    • KenW, dont worry, my grandma made sure my dad (and her other sons) knew how to crochet. It is kind of weird to see this itty bitty crochet hook in my dads hands but it helps lower his blood pressure.
      I am also going to teach my boys. They dont have to like it, but if ever they need to know, they will have that skill.

      • Survivor says:

        While in the Navy trying to advance to Third Class Petty Officer (E4) my supervisor (E6) told me I was a “YOOO-nighted States Sailer that was gonna hafta learn his knots” before he’d signed me off. I cussed that man like a dog (he was long gone by then). Knowing my knots had nothing to do with fixing broken torpedos!!

        Well, I learned those knots cussing every step of the way!!! He made me learn several of the basic knots…bowline, cinches and hitches…until he was happy and then he signed me off.

        Now, that’s one of the things I’m glad I learned. That little bit of knowledge has come in handy many times.

        And, learned a good saying that is applicable, “If you fall down, come up with handful of sand”. I took it to mean when you make a mistake, take something from it.

  3. Good points! Although we may not like or be particularly good at something does not mean that we do not need to know how to do it. Your partner may be injured or just need help doing something. Since my DH and I became empty nesters I have taught him how to do laundry, cook and clean! He has done more housework in the past 4 years than he had in the previous 25! LOL
    I was a stay at home Mom for most of my sons childhood. I did hold part-time and seasonal jobs, when they were older. I always tried to make sure that everything around the house was done before the weekend so that we could spend time together as a family. I spoiled him that way and it was hard for him when I started working full time to accept that he had to help around the house. We pretty much work together now. It makes the work easier.

  4. tommy2rs says:

    Timely article for me. The Boss and I just embarked on this kind of program after talking about what we would do if either of us lost the other and their skills/knowledge. Though getting her to kill the spiders is going to be the biggest challenge….lol. It’s a serious creep factor for her.

    • Tommy, lol. I wish I could show a picture of the spider I just killed. It was a goliath. Its a creep factor for me as well but I was not having a spider that was almost as big as my hand running around my house while the dh was at work…

    • tommy2rs,
      I think killing spiders is why they invented .22 birdshot, LOL.

  5. JP in MT says:

    Good ideas and you certainly got me to read the whole thing with this title!

    • JP,

      “You certainly got me to read the whole thing with this title!”

      That was the point – unfortunately, a couple of folks sent emails to let me know that they were offended by the title…

      • JP in MT says:

        Let’s see….how do I put this to them politely….I know: “Sucks to be You!”

        Just a shorter version of my response to the movie poster email.

      • MD, wow a few people are a little uptight. I guess you cant say “boo” anymore without offending someone.

        • JP in MT says:


          My comments weren’t directed at you. I actually found your ideas in keeping with the point of the article. My comment was directed at those who want to take offense where there is none.

          • Jp, I know… no apology needed on my end. Lol. I was commenting on MD’s response on the emails he has recieved. I am sorry that you thought I was responding to you.

  6. I thought you were going to say something about donning a pair of stilettos, get your hair and make up done and maybe a wax job. Lol. Really kind of glad you didnt.

    The only thing that has a gender roll is the birth and feeding of babies. Unless scientist figure a way around that one. Otherwise, we can all step out of our comfort zone and learn to do other things. We dont have to be proficient at it, just as long as we can get it done.

    • TG;
      I actually laughed, wondering if some space alien’s had stolen MD’s mind with that title and pic. Then I read the article and knew he was just trying to really get our attention on a subject many of us really never think about.

  7. You know, play on words or what ever, the tilte of this article sickened me. Yea I read it and I liked the content, but yet again we are having some form of gay agenda shoved down my throat. Just the other night it was some transgender navy seal.

    You know, I enjoy these articles for the wholesomness of them and getting back to what life used to be. Now I have to deal with having gay tollerant garbage here now?

    Sorry, the very title of this was offensive, no matter what the content was. My vote is keep this site on the strait and narrow and drop any hints of the radical gay agenda that is destroying our nation.


    • Ray,

      Wow. You were offended by the title, I have to say I never even thought of anyone getting offended by that… The point with the title was to get folks attention so that they would accually read the article instead of just skipping over it.

    • Ray, I went to Parsons School of Design (art school) in New York City back in the mid-1980s, and so far as I know was the only straight guy in my class. Maybe one other guy, but I’m not sure, as I never asked. Some of my classmates were pretty far out there behaviorally, but there were some I was proud to call friends.

      I can understand why many are offended by the stereotypical gays, and by the demand by many that individuals and private businesses be prohibited by law from refusing to serve them. I believe the government should butt out of that. The governments of the so-called Land of the Free should let people make their own decisions about who to do business with, and who not to.

      However, gays are not a monolithic block. There are plenty of individuals who are socially, economically, and politically conservative. There are plenty who are responsible citizens who make important contributions to society.

      One of the original plaintiffs in DC vs Heller (the DC gun ban case), Tom G. Palmer, was a gay guy I briefly worked with back in the late 1980s. He never made a big deal of his sexual preferences, and I have to say, he was a very good guy. He once had to show the handgun he was carrying concealed because several guys armed with clubs made it clear they were going to beat Tom and a friend either to death or maim them, for being gay. He has spent his life working for smaller government, and freer societies around the world. If he were more successful with his agenda, we would live in a better country with lower taxes, fewer government mandates and prohibitions, and a lot more freedom.

      Anyway, this isn’t meant as a put down of your beliefs, or of your taking offense. You have the same rights to those as I have to mine, and to voice them. I just hope you understand that gays and lesbians aren’t all alike.

      In fact, if what I have read from time to time is true, not all cross-dressers are gay or lesbian. I don’t know why straight guys would want to cross dress, but I think that if we want smaller government we should start with leaving them alone. Anyway, if you despise them, that’s fine. I just don’t share your view, and I thought the post title was amusing.

    • Ray,
      Really? You just had to throw your homophobe weight around? Do you hide in the corner worrying about the gays and Unicorn Army taking over the world because MD made a funny on an article header?

      Well, since you started it… I find YOU offensive and think you should go play somewhere else.

    • ray,
      Huh? Time for a few aaplications of skin thickener.

  8. I’m glad you didn’t want to start gender reversal because I’m WAY too hairy to make any semblance of a woman.

    At home it’s just me and the dog, and necessity forces me to learn ‘everything’. Which is probably a good thing.

    • Annie Nonymous says:

      I dunno, Mike, you may be cute in Stillettos. (giggling madly)

      Getting serious… I have my folks to thank for making me realize if I stay a frilly, don’t get my hands dirty girl, I could well die for my ignorance… worse, my family may well suffer because I couldn’t handle a “substantial” firearm, or troubleshoot and fix a genset that just won’t run. I may have not liked (at first) needing to know mechanics along with canning, or welding along with sewing, but at my now ripe old age, I realize, no, KNOW, that what has gotten me through a lot of otherwise untenable bad stuff is KNOWING how to deal with a problem that would have normally been left to the “menfolk”….. Plus, I found I *like* the challenge of making things work. It’s like a Jigsaw puzzle… on steroids.

      Someone who has issues about knowing the skills their DH (or XYL) has, for the betterment and survival of their clan, no place in a true survival scenario. Sounds harsh, but maybe it is… because, reality is you MAY be the sole person surviving a SHTF scenario and your progeny and bloodline may need to know not only how to skin and dress wild game, but cook it as well… and your daughter may just need the skillset of journey mechanic to make herself and her family “useful” if they need to show worthyness to a group deciding whether to accept your group or send you packing…

      If you are at all *skittish* or have issues knowing and sharing your knowledge with your other half (and vice versa) they you are only half a prepper… and sure and shootin’, its that other half of knowledge your masculinity said you bettter not know that will be your downfall. You, your family, your bloodilne.

      If you want to worry that someone may think you a “sissy” or a “dyke” because you know something that is known to the opposite sex, then you’re really NOT ready to face the reality that you may be the ONLY ONE STANDING that has that knowledge.. Would you rather have that 2010ish smugness knowing you kept your sex’s knowledge only… lacking that one needed skill to keep your group alive?

      Me? I learn EVERYTHING I can. Because, darnit, I may be my eventual retreat groups ONLY source of knowledge on the subject matter – whether it be sewing on a zipper, or welding up a track on a caterpillar, or getting that damned genset running, or preserving those 2 bears our hunting party brought home. You willing to die for lack of knowledge? Or sarifice your kids? Me? I say, no way in hades.

      YMMV. But it scares me that there are people that fear knowledge so much. Makes me want to quiz my prepper group, to find and extricate the weak links. Before they put ME and MY FAMILY in danger.

  9. Since the DH was a single father raising a daughter by himself for several years and I was a single mom for a while (and raised by a tom-boy), we each have skills that fall in both realms. I’ll still find someone else to work on my car, but if I had to, I could figure out how to change my own oil. I also like to cut the grass and would prefer to work in the yard than clean house. There are still a lot of things to learn, but I’m off to a decent start.

    Good article and good reminder!

  10. I guess I ought to teach my husband the right way to thread a needle so he won’t come to me with a sad expression every time he pops a button on one of his Hawaiian shirts. He already knows how to do laundry, bake a quiche and a meat loaf and cook pasta al dente — I made sure he had kitchen and cleaning skills before I agreed to marry him.

  11. I thought you were going to talk about dressing girls and women like males to keep them safe…….kinda article.
    Everyone in this house has to learn everything. This year I have been learning small engine repair. My daughter is learning how to fish, hunt and process meat. She is learning how to build a rabbit hutch. Well, her brother is helping her with the sawing parts.
    The boys all know how to sew, cook, can, clean and will eventually learn to assist birthing and caring for babies. All already know how to care for small children and can multitask just like a woman.
    I am not being critical of men, or profiling, so don’t go crazy.
    I have found it is difficult for (my) men to multitask. Me thinks that they are linear thinkers. they become totally focused on the task at hand. They have to be taught to keep one eye on a toddler and the other on the job, and they do it well.

    • Sw't Tater says:

      Mama J, Good job!
      i was blessed with a daughter to rhear, and now we have a son already grown. Both have some crossing of traditional roles due to conditions life has thrown their way. Such training from early ages is so beneficial to our children. some day those children will be thanking you , my DD already has.

  12. private idaho says:

    I wont wear my dws clothes but I know how to cook, clean and change diapers. it was all apart of growing up with a single mother if you didn’t cook for yourself you went hungry until parental unit came home from work. so I wont wear her clothes but I like to think I can fill her shoes if needed. good article by the way.

  13. I don’t get the folks that are offended by the title, but, hey, more power to em. I do get the gist of the article and agree. My dd had to be able to check & fill fluids & change a tire before she could drive. Ds can cook & do laundry. Dh can cook & do laundry. The guys suck at cleaning, but, whatever. I do the yardwork & animal husbandry. And can do some auto repair, but I hate it. None of us are carpenters, though. (my daddy was).
    My pop had 5 girls, I was the tomboy.

    • Annie Nonymous says:

      As was I… and I am damned glad for what I learned at BOTH my folk’s side.
      Oh yeah… the guys… can learn. As can we. If motivaed enough!

  14. What’s up with the pop ups?!! I am having a hard time reading comments.

    My husband is a chef and I am a cook so we both have that skill. My husband says that I am a tough girl, I can do many things that a lot of women can’t do. He has learned more “feminine” due to circumstance. When I worked he took care of everything and vice versa, dad learned to sew under pressure and that’s how mom learned to kill a snake.

  15. What I’m offended abouti s it that esp. the women think this is a new idea. Cross training has been an army thing for 100 years BUT Men will still be protectors and women caregivers This was not a thought process in the beginning BUT a means to survival. A women couldn’t take on a wild animal with a pointed stick and survive A man is built to take a beating and keep on ticking a women Not so much. I’ve heard it all the time you don’t help enough around the house. Thanks correct it’s not my job but yours. When the bad guy breaks down the door I will not expect you to go first BUT you will expect me to (that is part of my job) I kill you clean and reload.Men are better at rational though women emotional thought unless trained to ignore there basic DNA. Men are Empire builders women build civilizations. We are basicly animals real men have the fright/fight and women have the fright/flight(run) DNA. You can cross train but never forget who you really are.

    • Kelley,
      I couldn’t disagree more. You don’t know many women do you?

    • Cross-training has been around for centuries. There have even been some societies found where the men stayed home to take care of the children and women were the hunters/providers.

      There is a lot more to the determination of roles in life than DNA – what society expects of us has a lot more to do with it than anything.

      Further, my DH says that while I am all woman, there are times when I think more like the typical man than the average female. That is a trait that comes to me from a long line of women who had to take care of themselves and could not depend on men.

  16. I wasn’t offended in the least by the title-it was funny and drew the eye to it-and I’m with the author. This brings to mind a quote from one of my favorite authors…

    “A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly. Specialization is for insects.”
    ― Robert A. Heinlein
    There’s a lot of wisdom in what that man wrote, never mind it was science fiction, he worked in a lot of downright practical knowledge into his works.
    My mom taught me how to darn socks and mend clothes, my dad taught me how to cook anything into a palatable meal. I learned childcare from helping my sister out, and a slew of other non-traditional skills along the way. A rigid, monolithic worldview can get you killed if you aren’t careful. As we used to say when I was in the service, “Semper Gumby”, Always Flexible.

  17. Have to disagree to a point , its the fact that men and women NO LONGER have assigned , clear cut roles , that we as a nation are such a screwed up nation . Thats also why you are seeing more and more American men looking for relationships outside their culture . Men want to be men and they want a real woman , not a spoiled man with boobs . Just sayin . I met my gf by accident , she is Russian , now I will never date another American woman again . They still have clear cut roles , and quite frankly ……..a lot more class ( at least the women in my age group do ) . Yes everybody will have to pull more of their weight in an emergency , the Russians were famous for using females to fill needed ” manpower ” , but even then , when the emergency ( usually a war ) was over , everybody went back to their perspective roles . I predict the opposite will happen if the collapse is long term , because men and women are built differently , both physically and emotionally , the more primitive the circumstance , and the longer it lasts , people will revert back to the original roles because the original roles play on the strengths of either sex . All the other BS is what happens when people do not have enough to do ……….think about it .

    • TG:
      Thanks for the heads up, I grabbed it right away. My mom taught me years ago, how to make a rug but that was it. Same for knitting….guess it is not my bag. My df is going to teach me how to weave on a loom, she even spins her own yarn…….I said “get out of here!” she just laughed. The fabric shop she works for is teaching the clients how to use these…actually it is a great idea, but my weaving basket is in need of side boards. Where she is lacking in the sewing dept is my skill set and where my skill set is weak hers is just wonderful….. now if we could just get the dh’s to do the windows, dishes, etc etc we would have it made.(wishful thinking)

      • Becky, I hope it helps. I can crochet blindfolded (ok not really, but close) so didnt get the book but I figured it went with the topic here.
        I would love to learn to spin my own yarn. I have watched how to videos on it, but just havent tried it out yet. My dh tells me I have to work my way thru the stash I already have before I can get anything more to do with yarn. *sigh*

  18. TG:
    You want me to send you a food grade bucket to hide the new stuff in?? He will never know unless he thinks there if frosting in the bucket, opens it up to put frosting on a cookie…………oh dear, we will be so busted. My dh just closes his eyes and shakes his head, knows it will be used, if not today some day in the future.

  19. Annie Nonymous says:

    If I know what you know… and you know what I know… then our force multiplier went from 1.0×2 to 2.0×2. And knowledge is strength, power, and success. Without that, you will surely die. You don’t want to succeed or something????

    This quote from one of my favorite Drill Sergeants. Dynamo. One of my heroes. And talking to her over beers after BMT, she opened up, and told me she felt responsible, not FOR us, but TO us. Because she didn’t want to be responsible that she fubarred up and one of her recruits died. EVERYTHING she had, she threw at us. Because (as we talked about) you NEVER KNOW what you may need to survive.

    Of course, if you’re too chicken to know what I know, then good luck to you. Because I want to know all tha ou know and more. My family’s survival is worth it. Is yours??

  20. As a single woman “cross dressing” is a must. I built my chicken coop (with help getting the roof on) and used my pole saw to cut down the branches that broke during our last ice storm. I know how to do basic small motor repair. (Got a book and some tools and figured it out. I hate it, but I can do it) I would love to live with more traditional gender roles, however that isn’t a choice for me. When it hits I know I will have at least 4 family members at my door. (Two invited and two because of how close they are) My dad is one of them. He will be very helpful. My brother in law…not so much. So I learn as much as I can, no matter whoes job its supposed to be and hope at the end of the day its enough.

  21. The title did certainly get my attention! I was a little surprised by the content. Not what I expected at all.
    What I did think, and what we have done personally, might help someone out there, so here goes. Our daughter is 5′ 10″, slender, and athletic. We have told her in a SHTF scenario she is to dress, act and talk like a man. She knows to bind her chest and wear baqgy shirts and boots. She should cut her hair short. The idea is to pass herself off as a teenage boy. This could help her avoid certain ‘unpleasant’ situations and may even save her life. A lot of women couldn’t pull this off successfully, but for those who can, it’s something to consider.

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