Why Women Need The Second Amendment and Tips for Preparing for Home Invasion and Violent Crime

Today we present another article in our non-fiction writing contest – Sarah

There is a lot of debate on whether America needs to take away the second amendment after the recent church shooting. The logic is that if there are no guns there will be no gun violence. Of course this is a completely illogical line of thinking because if you look at cities that ban guns they have some of the highest rates of gun violence i.e. Chicago.

The problem is the only people you are disarming are law-abiding citizens that don’t commit violence anyways. Criminals don’t care if they get their guns illegally because their going out to commit crimes. So the only people who suffer are those of us that use guns legally.

As a woman I am very glad I have several guns in my home. My father had four children, three of them girls. He taught all of us how to shoot effectively and safely. The reason was that women are in most cases unable to fight off an attacker. He called guns the great equalizer. Meaning a guy may be stronger and faster than me but he is NOT faster than my gun!

As our economy gets worse and drugs become more prevalent we will, and are, seeing more crime. I have personally been on the receiving end of this trend three different times now. All three involve men on drugs coming on to our property. The most recent is as follows

Just recently we were woken up at 3:00 am by our 17-year-old daughter running up the stairs in panic because a man was at our back door trying to kick it in. Our dogs were going nuts and my husband and I sprang into action. Police will tell you to never confront or allow someone to get ahold of you. If they are on drugs they often are impervious to pain, abnormally strong, and especially with the new street drugs, extremely violent and dangerous.

My three younger children ages 6, 10, and 11 woke up and were terrified asking if the person was going to hurt them.

My husband and I worked quickly as a team. I got on the phone and called 911 while I hustled my four children into a defendable and secure room. I stood in the doorway waiting with a view of the stairs. My husband got our shot-gun loaded and headed down stairs. While on the phone I also armed myself with a hand gun in case whoever was down there got through my husband.

You see we didn’t know if this man was armed or not, or was coming in to kill us. I could hear my husband yelling that he was armed and if the man came through our door he would defend himself and his family. This did not deter the man in the least as he kept running a kicking our door.

I prayed and prayed that the door would hold. We could feel it upstairs every time he kicked the door and our windows were shaking.

Meanwhile I was on the phone with the 911 dispatcher explaining the situation and that my husband was armed.

The police showed up (thankfully) within 2 minutes and were able to get the man. He was completely strung out on several drugs we found out. He was making no sense and fought the police when they tried to get him in the patrol vehicle and later fought the jailers.

The only thing that stood between my children and that man was a regular back door with a dead bolt. If I had been unarmed and without my husband my only option would have been to pray. That is NOT an option for me. Instead of being helpless in the face of attack I am empowered to protect myself and my children. And you can bet NO ONE is going to hurt them without first having to come through me.

So when people cry about needing to ban guns I think of the countless women and children in countries where gun ownership is not allowed that are raped and murdered. How many of those crimes would be averted if those women were armed and taught how to use them? There are thousands of cases every year in America of women defending themselves with firearms against men that never make it to the mainstream media because it doesn’t fit with their agenda.

We know that disarming a population does not decrease violence, it just shifts or even increases because criminals know they have defenseless victims.

Guns are not the problem, it is criminals that are the problem. As my father told us, guns are just a tool. A dangerous tool just like a skill saw, but still a tool. You must respect them and use them safely.

My husband and I have been teaching our children gun safety and marksmanship as they reach ages that are appropriate. My eldest daughter is nervous of guns but an excellent shot and knows how to load and fire. After the above incident she told me how glad she was now that we have firearms.

And as I say to my children now. The only time you need a gun is when you REALLY need a gun.

So how can you prepare for home invasion or violent crime?

1. Be Prepared

Think out different possible scenarios and your reactions in your head. If you have a spouse talk about them and work out what both of you will do to deal with the situation. The more you do this the less likely you will be to panic. Knowing what you’re going to do is a huge confidence booster.

2. Get A Gun and Learn How To Use It

This is what stands between you and a criminal. Learn to use this tool and use it safe. Learn how to clean it, load it, and reload it. This also means educating your children about it and keeping it somewhere secure but accessible to you in an emergency. You wouldn’t leave knives down in a toddlers reach so don’t do the same with your guns.

3. Make your home less attractive to criminals

Have motion lights, lock your doors and gates, and teach your children not to open the door to strangers. Also hardening your home is a good idea. Have a gravel path all around your house so that if someone is walking around looking in windows it is noisy alerting you or your dog. Plant thorny hedges in front of windows. Make sure all doors are well-lit.

4. If you don’t have a dog consider getting one

Dogs hear and smell better than us. Our dogs let us know whenever someone is around. Also our Golden Lab is mildly intimidating so very few people will chance going into our yard.

5. Learn self-defense

Most crimes against women start with a man surprising her and grabbing her before she knows what’s going on. That is the last situation you want to be in as a woman because a man is generally much stronger than a woman, but learning personal defense moves can save your life and get you away.

6. Be Aware of Your Surroundings

Looking purposeful and aware deters criminals. They want soft easy targets. When you are walking to your car look around, pay attention, note people around you.

At some time or another most people will experience a violent crime. It’s really not a question of if but when. So don’t be a victim be a victor. Please add your thoughts and comments below…

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  1. Excellent article. A gun is indeed a tool and needs to be treated like a tool. It will take 45 minutes to get county officers to my place. Not good for a female up in years and living away from my neighbors. I know if I am alone, grandkids at work, it is up to me to protect myself.

  2. ok ok, we hand ’em over, NP, all are gone…. wait where do global bad guys get theirs? well, kalishnakoffs are made in ______? socialism doesn’t work, so where does the $$$$ come from to make,sell, give these weapons to global bad guys? well, kerry & the big o gave weapons to ______, which putin could crush, then those weapons could be used against _____…. bush family trades in _____ oil, mfg companies, due to ______ & _______, manufacture ___ ___, US military ______ combatant allies, who then become ________. The SHORT list: Kalishnakovland, ukraine, USA, middle east, taxation & regulation, over seas, trains, enemies…. oh wait, leadership of both parties + business leaders recommend this? Throw the rascals out w/the bath water…..

  3. Great article. I was ambivalent about guns. Then years ago many things started happening in our area. My husband said that we were getting guns. I started to poo-poo it, but he explained that I had no choice. The only choice that I had was choosing the first handgun. He wanted me to be proficient and comfortable with it, and I now am. I now understand their need, go practise and take classes with him regularly, joined the NRA, go to gun shows with him, and have gotten many of my female friends to get on board with the need to have one and learn how to use it. It has empowered me and I thank God that I was not given a choice all those years ago.

    • Ce:

      Please pass on to your DH my thanks for being a man of principle and doing what is right in the face of social opposition. Too many men don’t take their God given responsibilities seriously. Thank you for supporting him. Sometimes understanding comes after action.

      • I passed it on and he gave me that knowing smile that said – see, I know what is best for us.

  4. mom of three says:

    I agree with the author, and am glad everyone was A okay. What a scary moment to wake up too. We have gravel up our driveway, a 6 foot fence around, and a motion detector, on the side of the house plus back, and front door light’s, and yes a good solid front door, alarm system to boot. My hubby, woke up early to soak in our hot tub, a few months back when he saw a movement out our back door, the guy
    was dressed all in black. Hubby, turned the porch light all
    the way up so the guy knew someone was there and finally moved on. We also just heard around 8 shots this morning
    2:30 AM that was scary to hear and I believe this is the tip
    of the iceberg, it’s going to get worse.

    • Mom of 3, I completely agree. Things are going to get worse and then if we are not prepared, our children will suffer.
      As a woman who lives alone, I agree with Sarah’s article completely. The trouble is I won’t be calling 911; there will not be time.

  5. Excellent article and information.

    Unfortunately the ones who really need to hear this won’t listen. They are part of the “it won’t happen to me” crowd. “I’m a kind, caring, understanding, and forgiving type person so this won’t happen to me.” They will not believe they have the need because personal protection is something provided by professionals, that’s what we pay them for. In their world, violence upon a person that would require the use of a firearm is just hype brought on by the “great right-wing conspiracy” nut jobs. If we took away the guns, people would not be so violent towards others. They fail to look at the recent example of Australia and how the violence changed but did not go away.

    In our town it would only take 3 other calls, just minutes before yours, to have no response from police, they just aren’t available. Plus it is easier to blame the object (the gun) than to blame the operator/violent person.

    My DW and I are no longer able to take on 200+ pound assailants empty handed. Drugs or no drugs. Let alone a group of them. I pray that I never will, but am mentally and physically ready to do so. I refuse to be a voluntary victim.

    • The other big example of how crime changes with gun banning but doesn’t go away is the U.K. When bans started coming out in the ’80’s, criminality just took to knives and bats and shivs. Violent intent occurs gun or no gun.

  6. I am definitely in favor of gun control. If you can’t control your gun, you shouldn’t have one. 😉 Seriously, though, this goes to point #2 above, if you get a gun, you really need to learn how to use it responsibly.

    And some advice I read from someone who was a professional house burglar: he would never come into a home that was occupied. Anyone who does is incompetent, on drugs, or intends harm, and is dangerous in any of those cases.

    • I absolutely agree. IMO, anyone trying to enter my home while I’m here intends to do me harm, and I will react accordingly.

  7. TPSnodgrass says:

    As a former law enforcement officer, I insisted that my wife and I raise our (now adults) three kids with the knowledge of HOW and WHEN to use firearms. Today, all are happy well adjusted adults with families of their owns, and all three families are armed to the teeth.(from Grandpa’s safe-that’s WHY it’s there).
    I wouldn’t have it any other way. I also don’t believe ANY firearms owner should feel they need to “apologize” to society for owning and using a firearm LEGALLY. Protections of yourself from predation IS a basic human right. There is never a need to apologize for being an adult and being more self-reliant than the Ninnies-and-Whiners-of-Society. Let THEM be fodder for the biped predators! When a police offi9cer, I would often tell when asked, “How long does it take for police to get to my home?” I would say, How long can YOU hold your breath? That’s ALL the time you have in reality.” Believed it then and now that I’m “older and greyer”. Protect yourself and family, it’s what adults DO. No need to apologize.

  8. My SIL is one of those “guns are bad and nothing happens here” people. She like to keep her windows uncurtained and her doors unlocked so her house will look “welcoming”. We were sitting at her kitchen table one day discussing this very idea, when a young man with tattoos and chains all over knocked once and shoved open her front door, just like that.

    She about, well, lost bodily control. Turns out he was the relief mailman and her house was so “welcoming” he decided to just set inside a package he thought was something valuable. He was a nice guy, but I pointed out to him that (a) He almost got shot, so maybe waiting for a reply to your knock when visiting strangers is a good thing and b) He might want to make sure he has his whole actual postal service uniform on, not the tee shirt and gold chains favored by a local gangs, so as to prevent, see (a) above.

    My SIL now has curtains on her windows, and sometimes remembers to lock her doors. I expect to read about her in the papers one day, sadly enough, because she also goes out into the street to admonish strangers she feels aren’t being neighborly.

    Most people are basically good. I really do believe that. The problem my SIL doesn’t understand is the 1% who will kill you for five bucks and a rep in the ‘hood. They don’t clearly identify themselves until you’re already in deep you-know-what. Once they’re at your door – or inside it — the Second Amendment is what allows the good guys to deal with the bad kind, and keep innocents being victimized.

  9. Hunkerdown says:

    I am very glad you and your family came out of the situation unscathed. But in the long run, it only made things worse. Please read this with an open, realistic mind before you file 13 my comment in moderation. So, here goes, you and people that think like you are part of the ongoing problem, not the solution. You own a gun, but for whatever reason, decided not to use it. Now the perp is still alive, still able, and will no doubt attempt another home invasion, and the next daughter may not be so fortunate as to have parents at home. You called the police. Lot of good that did. They simply put him in jail and he or his fine Christian parents will post bail for him. Then, out on the streets, a trip to the Priest for repentance, or church to explain how the Lord saved his live and He loves me too, and then off to another drug deal, and then when his money is gone it’s off to another invasion of someone’s home. All that happened here was an ongoing situation that strengthened the perps resolve to attempt to kill again. You were not his first home invasion, someone simply passed him on to you, and you passed him on to his next victim, not to mention the money that once again the taxpayers have to cough up to incarcerate this lowlife. Plus danger to the Police Officers and Jailers. Next time would you please pull the trigger. Put the scum in the cemetery where he belongs.

    • Ridiculous! If her husband shot the perp through the door he would likely be charged with murder or attempted murder. Is he supposed to open the door an let the perp in and THEN shoot him so he can claim “castle doctrine”? Do you have any idea of the legal implications of that?

    • Chuck Findlay says:

      Hunkerdown what were they supposed to do, blast away through the door? If they did that you can make a bet the husband would be sitting in jail right now. How well is the family going to survive with a husband doing 10-years for murder?

      What It seems your post is saying is they needed to kill this guy. And if he was able to break into the home that may have happened. But what if he didn’t have a gun or knife? The court system and police would probably see it as murder if they killed an unarmed man.

      They did not pass this guy down the line as you call it. They acted right and did the right thing for their family to survive the event. The husband acted right to warn the guy off, the wife protected herself and the kids by covering the stairs with a gun. Both of them are responsible gun owners.

      • also, think of the field day the press would have trumpeting their anti-self preservation agenda!!!!!

    • Only one slight stumbling block to that logic Hunkerdown: the law. As hard as it is to believe, the laws of our “civilized society” quite often make it JUST AS DIFFICULT to be a law-abiding gun-owning defender of our homes as it does a criminal trying to invade a home (and sometimes even more so). Many states penalize people for even “giving a warning shot” and most states have a “shoot but don’t hit them” clause to their gun laws. It seems that the prevailing view is that the gun-owning homeowner must doggedly justify the use of a firearm in many places. That process starts from the very moment that bullet impacts the perpetrator and ends at the tap of a gavel after the berating from the attorney of said perpetrator. Now, I call it a “slight stumbling block” because if the article author (or anyone else) doesn’t care about that risk and is willing to take it, then by all means, fire away!

  10. pls pardon my earlier rant….. I view most of our society’s major ills as being the result of an inter-connected treachery; gun control being another plank in that platform. It’s incumbent upon us all to recognize & thwart our foes, yet justice must prevail. I am responsible for all I contact during each day Our Lord provides, whether it be driving a car, caring for my children, giving to those less fortunate, etc. When my actions are outside His guidance, He is not pleased w/me. I must earn His respect, though He loves me always.

  11. Heard Daniel Snyder, Washington Redskins owner, has decided to change the teams name…. could be a rumor. Due to the larceny, corruption, infanticide, etc. associated w/our nation’s capital, the teams name will be changed to The Redskins. Heard that somewhere, dunno it’s true, but worth repeating/sharing….

  12. Chuck Findlay says:

    With 50% of marriage ending in divorce (80% of the time it’s initiated by woman, not men) there is an alarming number of woman with no man to protect them. A firearm in the home and knowledge of it’s safe use is going to be even more important to a growing number of woman in the future as crime and home invasions are only going to go up as time goes on.

  13. I read a while back, must have about three years ago now, that women are the fastest growing demographic of gun owners-with good reason! Attempted assault can happen ANYWHERE and it’s good to be prepared for whenever it might happen.

    Stepping away from the topic slightly, another demographic in which firearms serve as a great equalizer is the disabled. I was born with a physical handicap that puts me at a pretty significant disadvantage in a hand-to-hand fight. I try my best to maintain point#5 made above (I’m pretty good with cane martial arts, if I may say so myself), but it’s comforting to know that my buddy Springfield (.45) is there to reliably back me up!

    • Andy:

      As I understand it now, the fastest growing demographic is now among seniors!

    • G1 Andy, TY! TY especially for the demographic stats. Demographics, to me, are a great indicator of overall social stances & trends, albeit incomplete & beg further research…. I’m not disabled, but my martial arts training was years ago, I am aging & not in great physical condition. Those things said, I am on good terms w/my Mossberg pump. Caliber low enough to minimize collateral damage, but the s’sounds effects’ add another dimension…. my that IS special.

  14. Great article. Some of her sentences are almost WORD FOR WORD the same as what one of the heroines in my book PULSE says. (Apocalyptic Fiction). I also use the same line of reasoning when I speak to people who think guns should be banned. Most of these people have zero experience with firearms, think they’re dangerous and should be banned–but have never thought through the consequences. Thanks for sharing. (Sarah–you’d enjoy my book. Contact me for a free e-copy.) Lrburkard (at) roadrunner (dot) com.

  15. TPSnodgrass says:

    I also am a firm believer in pushing your personal perimeter, as FAR out as you can get away with. This shows any court, or District Attorney’s Office, the LAYERS of defense/alarms, your suspect/s had to go through to continue their predation. Makes it rather difficult to CLAIM that the predation was “instantaneous”, or “a mistake”. Bovine excrement. We need to start thinking like the Thug’s legal counsel does.

  16. #6- being aware & thoughtful is incumbent on all of us…. criminals seek out the easiest prey w/the greatest return they can find (predators in the wild do the same). This is true in our current political climate, as well. Hence MSM/TASS USA trumpeting 24/7Potemkin. To get an idea of how slimy some politicians/those connected are, read: The Franklin Coverup (J DeCamp). /this is literally the most disturbing book I’ve ever read & it sickens me to see how the city/county/state federal govt agencies, as well as the financial/investment/news media orgs & legal communities come together to ‘cover-up’ the hienious antics of Larry King (NOT the news man) after tons of proof surfaces depicting child & drug trafficking/kidnapping, money laundering, occultism, infant sacrifice & mutilation- in the Heartland!….. these slime came together to thwart the prosecution’s case IN COURT, discrediting children enslaved into a drug/trafficking lifestyle. Preposterous? The author names names & has never been sued (let alone had libel/slander cases found against him)!!!!!!!!!! These are the most base of crimes, prepare to be troubled, & I hope incensed!

  17. Encourager says:

    Excellent article. Thank you!!

  18. axelsteve says:

    We have 3 dogs. A pit,a lab and a mixed breed if someone wanted in and they did not know the perp, things would get loud . If a perp or perps made it past the dogs. Then the situation would elevate.

  19. I have often thought of getting another dog…. I’ve had them my whole adult life, until the last few years…..I can unabashedly say I have NOT been the most responsible owner to come down the pike….Given insurance companies forays into veterinary procedures (i.e., SKYROCKETING PRICES) over the last 20 some years, fines by municipalities, lawyers & the court systems getting their ——-(funny, the only word I can think of is greedy, but then I’d be waxing cynically) little hands into the pie$. The responsibilities I’d be undertaking are beyond my current limitations. Some dogs I’ve ‘owned’ (I use the last word colloquially) have truly been this ‘man’s best friend’! Others a burden. All my neighbors have dogs, most are very responsible! One family not. Their little yapper may be let out @ all hours of the day or night, when asked about this they lie & dodge questions. I feel that if SHTF, any dog I own will have to be put down, its carcass properly disposed of. Why? Loose lips sink ships! They would become a billboard, advertising my preps. At SHTF time many will let them go (feral). Poochies will congregate & maraud. They would become a nuisance @ best, the responsibilities falling to those whom are beset upon. Still, I would benefit greatly from old Rover’s presence, so my mind is not made up…..the ‘natural’ warning may save my life, but 2 legged marauders do & would dispose of dogs in short order. Geese on the other hand would be beneficial in other ways, beside the alarm & food benefits, still an advertisement for predators. Maybe the 800# gorilla? Now, regarding cats…..

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